I'm sorry too Vicky! The only way I found to get over H and stop thinking about him and my sitch and everything, was by GALing like crazy. The busier you are I think the easier it is. I'm at the point now where it's not as crucial for me to GAL, but I'm going to keep it up long-term anyway. It's not good to be so independent on one person or anybody else for your happiness, which I totally did for years and years. Just focusing on my kids and H.
I think it would be so unfair for you to get involved right now when really your heart belongs to someone else. I doubt a new R at this point would work out long-term either and be a happy, healthy R unless you work on healing more. I think of this time as a time to get healthier and happier and stronger, so when I am able to have an R, I'll be really ready for it. Karen
