I think I will try to see him when I go back next week for some dog walking time together. Its a bit nerve racking because I always tend to feel sad after seeing him that he doesn't pursue me at all, but I guess just building up small positive interactions is the best I can do right now.
I think he is depressed too, but also know that he is a person that does not like to look back on anything, so I think he is doing his damndest to push forward with plan of ending our marriage completely and perhaps getting in deeper with OW is helping him along with that.
Friends of ours saw us together a few months ago when we were walking the dog and said that they could see him start to have a good time, and then shake it off, almost like, I told myself I don't have fun with her anymore. I kind of noticed that too. But since then, he has been pretty consistently distant. The last time we were together he hugged me the way I've seen him hug distant relatives! Not good.I wonder if this is because he now feels more connected/commited to OW than me. He seems very concerned about the fact that she (OW) is embarrassed about their friendship/relationship and has gotten a lot of negative feedback about it from their mutual colleagues. I think my H is embarassed about it too but not enough to stop it obviously, and also seems protective of her for being distressed over it (the ultimate insult, caring more about her feelings than mine). I really have no idea as the the nature of their relationship these days, I've sort of ignored that topic with him lately, other than to say that I find it ridiculous. I wonder if this is the right way to handle it.
Last edited by traveldane; 06/06/0902:58 PM.
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
