IMHO I would keep the part about not wanting the D, then tell her how you are surprised to get the papers given the changed behavior.
Ask if she is still unsure and would she like to work it out in MC.
If she says I'm sure - then set a time to plan it and tell the kids. If she says she unsure then tell her you will set up MC to work things out from there in either direction.
What do you think?
V - I don't know if I mentioned it before but when my first M was ending - exh would ask me what we were doing after every meeting with the lawyer and wondered if we could work it out. I always replied that we could talk about it at home after the kids were taken care of. But he never did continue the convo, and I didn't initiate then, I would have dropped the D if he would have talked to me. I assumed he was just scared for a moment and then it wore off later. I assumed he wanted the D. After the D I found out that he was still in love with me and didn't want the D but thought I did. This is why I recommend talking honestly to your W - that way there can be no misunderstandings nor regrets.
