A lot of times it is the medium. You know that the telephone or in person visits are the wrong medium. Use emails from now on to inform him of important issues about S19. Quite frankly, S19 is a man and should handle his own issues.
I have to take your H's side on this. You left him multiple messages and were trying to guilt him. I would be pissed off at you too and if I had a son that was a man I probably would talk to him as a man - "I wish your mother would leave me alone?".
He wants you to leave him alone as he has a new life. Why cant you understand that?
XH doesnt have email. If my xh would have talked to me when he answered, instead of hanging up, the messages would not have happened. Be an adult for crying out loud. Listen, teenagers still need their parents, you will find this out, there are sometimes that they need advice regardless if they want it or not. My son can talk to his dad easier than he talks to me. I dont care how old he is or how much of a man he is, if I think he is making the wrong decision about something and wont listen to me, than yes, I expect his dad to step in with advice. Kerry, just because they are teenagers doesnt mean they know everything. They still need quidence. You will find this out soon enough. Some people assume when kids are older, they dont need anything from us. Well let me tell you I am 42 and I still need my dad for some things and needed my mother for others. AND my mom and dad was ALWAYS there for me. Kerry I truly hope you wouldnt do what my xh did. If your wife called with a concern, I hope you wouldnt turn your back just because you wanted to be left alone with your new love. A dad is always a dad to me.
Also, its your choice to take his side on this. I wasnt trying to quilt him into anything, I flat out was telling him it was important to talk with me. I am a little surprised at your position on this Kerry, but thank you for your input.
