I'm returning to the BB after a long absence. I have no idea where my old threads are, so I'll give a very very quick summary of my history.
Me 55 XH 59 S 16 lives with me 70 miles from X; S sees X one night per week plus two weekends each month.
May 2005: Speech July 2007: D final January 2008 X marries OW (who appeared, as if by magic, after not existing for 2 1/2 years)
It has been a very tough year. S16 has had some troubles, serious enough to be hospitalized twice. We seem to have found a good counselor and things are looking up. But it was scary, and brought back much of my anger at X.
I believe that at least some of S's acting out relates to his (unexpressed) sadness and anger that X is likely moving. In April X apparently had four or five job interviews for positions out of state. S's second incident coincided with the first of these interviews.
I'm returning to the MLC fold for a number of reasons. But the first is I think I need a whack with a 2x4 for ruminating about the meaning of X's recent behavior.
For those who have no idea of my sitch: XH, his new wife, and I all work at the same place. XH is boss. So Monday morning I take S into work with me so I can drop him off to spend 3 weeks with X. X and I chat fairly comfortably about their plans for a fun trip to DC. All seems as normal as it ever is.
Fast forward to the end of the same day. I'm walking out with a student when OW and X come walking down the stairs. OW gives me her usual somewhat constipated smile. But X, wait for it, blushes furiously.
I am at a loss. The man left me, refused to look back, or consider counseling, and he still blushes when I see him in the company of his perfectly legal new wife!
I just had to post this in case any of the really oldtimers saw it and wanted a reminder of how crazy this MLC thing can be.
So cheers. Hope I dredge up some oldtimers from the woodwork.
