Hi Sandi, sorry that I don't know you, but I have been reading your posts and was hoping that you can take a quick look over at my new post on Midlife when you get a chance. I know there is not much to go on as I have not been one to post thru all of this, but I am at a cross road as to which way to think about my stich. As I have posted, it seems that H is doing things just the opposite of what most MLCers do so I am confused as to what to think or do as this point. Do I start the persuing myself,or leave him alone as he seems to want to be. Just don't know. Lately when I have called him first, he seems to be happy to hear from me so this has become very confusing as to what to think or do. Well if you get a chance and anything that I can answer I will be glad to. Thanks for your time. Sonni