just wanted to say that I share your concern/confusion regarding separation when there are no kids that create necessity of some communication. I know you have your step son, but hear you in that it makes GAL and 180's more difficult "to broadcast" without regular sharing of kids.
I also am close to my WAH's family and am unsure about how to procede with communication with them. Initally it was all "he is making a mistake, we are here for you both, you are part of our family even if he has lost his mind", but of course as time goes on the communication has become cool and a bit strained. I know they feel disloyal talking to me and it makes me mad but I get it. Sort of.
I think it's great that you never carried on or begged...always great when there is not damage control to do on that front, and that he will never have that picture of you in his mind. I say keep up with the positive changes, 180's to what you hear him say was a problem for him in the marrige. If it was being critical, of course stop and point out positives- saying thanks for brininging over step son is a great example.
hang in and let us know how it is going... travel
Last edited by traveldane; 06/06/0903:06 AM.
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
