I just read your entire thread. Wish you weren't so far away in... IRELAND! I'm in the US/MidWest. We have a lot of similarities in our H's, our M's, and the turmoil in our H's childhoods. Sh%t! How did we get stuck with the after affects? We are kickas% fabulous women for Pete's sake!
Your kids are similar in ages to mine, as well... Except I have a D18 (God, help me!) that just graduated from high school a week ago today. My boys are 12 and 9. Darlings... SO FAR!
Here's what I'm proud of for you:
-- YOU are productive! -- YOU appear to NOT let H or his moods affect your day (for the most part). -- YOU truly dropped the rope (in front of him, at least) and validated his decision to separate. -- YOU are more honest than I re: Do I really want to stay married? I won't say I don't know... yet... I'm terrified.
I'll keep checking in! My BFF is in Ireland right now with her daughter. Just flew in yesterday. Susie is her name, so if you run into her... find her a pint! She's darling! Hahahaha
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
We are kickas% fabulous women for Pete's sake! 
