I am in a similar situation in which my husband still sees the OW about twice a month. He thinks that I don't know this, but I did find out by snooping. Dont' know if its just driving me crazy more to know what is going on. It is very difficult to live in the same house, sometimes I think it is harder than when the MLC spouse leaves. (harder for us, because we are confronted by them and their behavior every day). Harder to GAL and maintain that PMA because we all get used to routines. I am trying to reconcile myself to this by thinking this way: If he is here, at least that is more time that I can directly influence his words and actions. If he is still here, it means that on some level (the sane hidden one?) that he still wants the marriage. I have only been DB-ing for past two months, and have noticed positive changes. I would suggest doing normal things, but not going out of your way. Such as, if you are doing laundry anyway, throw his clothes in. However, don't try to fix his favorite foods. The DB idea is to 'be their friend' but not portray desperation. I hope things work out for you and your marriage.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
