WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

Yes saying Hi and Bye is the polite thing to do. Just treat her like you would a friend.

What did your son tell her? Did he say anything about missing her or that she doesn't answer the phone, etc.?

Yeah, I thought saying that would be the right thing to do. Maybe it's the resentment that was building up in me, but I just wasn't in the mood to fake that I was happy to call her. I don't think I was angry, but more that I didn't want to deal with the hurt/pain/frustration. Guess I'm just tired. Or the fact that I had a pretty good couple of days (since I the boys were with me) and didn't want to get derailed.

I guess it was just "listening to the little boy in me" and being childish. I gotta keep an eye out for that.

My 7 year old didn't say much at first. I could tell he was anxious as the phone rang. He just said that he was in bed. My wife asked how his day was and even dropped how was yesterday since she hadn't talked to him (not sure if that was a dig at me, but I didn't take the bait). He answered about his field trip and where we went for dinner tomorrow. I thought it was odd how she asked what we were doing tomorrow. He told her and she just said that sounded fun. Then my 3 year old got on the phone and rambled like most 3 year olds do.

Oddly, only my 7 year old said love you when my wife said it. My 3 year old just said bye.

Go figure.

I'll make sure I at least said Hi and Bye when I call next time. I guess even a 40 year old can act very childish at times....

Now why aren't you out getting a life? I have the kids so that's my excuse, but you should be doing something better than being on this forum on a Friday nite. There, I've finally got a chance to throw a 2x4 back your way (I've got quite a collection from you over the last 5 months)

Take care Stuck, hope you figure out what to do in your situation. Unfortunately, it sounded like mine was right before she moved out, although yours has additional complications. I know if there's anyone that can work that through, it's you!