Newcomer requesting advice

[MrBond]

I don't think it's necessarily euphoria he feels with the OW. She's more like the band-aid to his problems. It's obvious he's suffering from depression and he's not dealing with it. The IC he's going to is probably just agreeing with what he says to "guide" him into what he wants to do. That's why sometimes IC isn't necessarily a good thing.

I would start off by asking yourself why do you want to move? If it's just to get away from your H and the problem, then you shouldn't do it. If you have friends that can and will support you there, then stay. Does he pay any bills?

Unfortunately he is not going to think about his problems until the OW is gone. Right now he is preferring to live in his fantasy land and avoiding his real issues. The blaming you for his problems is what all WASs do. Don't beat yourself up over them. It was your child too that was lost. He should have been sympathetic about that. Him not doing so, shows his immaturity at dealing with loss.

If staying dark hasn't worked, maybe just call him to say you missed the dog. go out and talk about upbeat things. Start off with something very small like that and keep the interaction positive.

I know this is a personal thing to ask, but do you have a memorial or a grave where your baby is buried? maybe you both need to go there to openly grieve and get things out. Even if it's just to cry and let all the emotion out. It seems like that's what he needs to do.