Newcomer requesting advice

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Hi travel, you've surely had a rough year. So sorry for all of it.

I would say your H is still in the euphoria of the new R with ow. He admits he knows better but he's addicted to the new life.

Many of the DB 'tricks' won't apply here - the affair is already exposed, you're living apart, you're dark. Your only connection is still the finances? Are you enabling him by supporting him or being his 'mother' and taking care of that part?

The changes you are making in your life are huge - moving, relocating, new job. You already know that moving away is a huge risk to take in regards to the M. Are you doing this for you or is to get H's attention?

Any change you make should be real.

It takes time for the bad memories to fade and be replaced with the good ones that were there too. Let your H have his space, being in his face won't help. When he does make contact, be upbeat, be friendly, even flirty it it feels right. Make your voice smile.

In addition to DR, try also Five Love Languages.