Thanks for posting! I guess my problem with forgiveness is if he really can't ever give it (and this is not new to MLC, it's just now fully coming to light), then is there really any hope for reconciliation? I do forgive him and could forgive everything he's done. My belief is that by not forgiving, you're only hurting yourself.
He knew I knew about OW before the MC session (I found emails/chats between them a couple of months ago). But he didn't know that I had proof they were still very much in contact, that he was buying stuff for her, etc. He continues to insist that there is nothing "inappropriate" about the relationship even though he "loves" her and just the night before had bought her a $150 bracelet that he is adding charms to. He even had it out verbally with the C when he called him on his lies. While the lack of forgiveness is not new, the lying is SO out of character for him. MLC is truly an illness.
I've already let all of his dry cleaning just pile up. He's going to run out of shirts soon, but I've told him where the cleaners is located so I'm not doing anything else about it. I'm tempted to start letting his laundry just pile up too, but it just seems so petty, you know?
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