My counsel to you has consistently been to speak honestly to her, to tell her just how you feel about her and your life together. I believe there is often too much beating around the bush and tap dancing that we engage in with our spouse for fear of hearing what we don't want to hear. I'm inclined to believe that we are only putting off the inevitable.
Bill...this was from your previous post and I wanted to come back to it, because I was not quite sure what you meant.
You know how close she and I have been over the past year, and you know the R talks have been rare.
You also know right from the beginning, even as we stayed together and remained close, I "agreed" to what she wanted(a separation and eventual divorce) as I DBed.
Even with that, when we did have the rare R talk and she reminded me of her unhappiness and told me nothing had changed (the don't get your hopes up talks), I did tell her I loved her and that although I would give her what she wanted when the time came, it was not what I wanted.
I can't help but second guess a lot of what I did over the past year, but is that what you meant?...I should have been more forceful and adamant about telling her I did not want the marriage to end....not assuming she knew just because of my words and actions?
