I think you're over-reaching there, Coach. It wasn't an inquiry into my feelings -- it was a "what am I doing wrong? You're the one who wrote the medium e-mail!" kind of query.
Frankly, WAW's communication skills are first-rate -- outward-bound. In-bound, she hears what she wants to hear. Has always been that way.
This wasn't an opportunity for WAW to "hear" me. It was an opportunity to get p/o'd, which she obviously hasn't had enough of in recent days. This is a woman who will say she "wants to talk" and "be open," but who, whenever the conversation goes any way other than hers, will simply declare, "Well obviously we can't talk about this," get up, and storm out of the room.
Typical Example:
W: "We should talk about the spousal support." SP: Okay. W: "How much do you want?" SP: I don't know; I haven't seen any numbers. What did Attorney Friend say was the County default number? W: Well, it's obvious we can't talk about this. I knew you'd say you were going to go for the jugular. I knew you'd be completely unreasonable! [Storms off]
Where the prescribed answer is, "Why, nothing, darling! I just consider myself fortunate to have had the opportunity to have been married to you! I should be paying you for the privilege of getting divorced! In fact, let me get out the checkbook right now."
Though recently she's changed "go for the jugular" to "f*** me in the ***."
Hey we're making progress, I told you she wanted some "action" from you.
The next time she says this, tell her "...I do want to f*** you in the a** but in the bedroom, not here in the office" and wink at her
This is all her testing you, continue to see it like this and respond accordingly.
And I wasn't joking about the response I posted above either, try it, show her you're funny, be confident about it too when you say it.
