Hi, well it has been a long time since I have posted. Just been living my life,hoping like everyone else that R will finally get thru the tunnel but not putting my life on hold for him. I don't see many people on here anymore that where here when I started this horrible journey, so with out being too long I will try and do a short version of my time line. 11-01-05 R moves out to live with OW. Not sure how long this had been going on before but from bits and pieces, it has been a lot longer than I ever thought. R still living with OW as of today. From the start R has always had lots of contact with myself and some with the kids. As time is going on, that is getting to be less and less. He says that he will call later in the day or the next day and it might be a few days or a week before he calls back again. I have tried not answering his calls for days and when I finally do answer, he is so upset because he has not been able to get ahold of me and when I explain that I don't apprecite him doing that to me, he agrees not to do it again. Of course it just keeps happening over and over again. I have not tried to have a Rtalk with him, but have asked him a few times over the years if he still wants to come home and the answer is always " yes, soon". He has started asking about what the kids are doing almost every time that he calls which he never use to do. So I guess my question is; Is he just drifting away from us more, or is he going thru MLS sort of back wards where he had constant contact at first and now the distance? I am ready to call it quits but don't want to close the door to him if he is just not taking this journey the way most of them do. I asked him yesterday when he called if we could talk over the weekend about what we were going to do about us as it seemed he was not coming home. He said sure, but my gut tells me that it will be a while before I hear back from him thinking that I will just let it go and not remember that i had asked this of him or will have changed my mind. In all of this he has never once mentioned a divorce. I just have so many conflicting thoughts about this in my mind that any suggestions would help. Sonni
