My H, MLC and the OW

[bluerain]

Hi innishannon. It feels good to see your attitude starting to shift. It seems strange to say, but I think that you are going to be able to gain a lot from this experience.

Can you ask your H to not speak to your mother? I dont think that its too unreasonable. Especially if you cite her health and the impacts he has on it.

Him raking up the past is so strange. Does he really not have current reasons for wanting to be separated? Such as My mental health has improved, or I am not depressed? No, he still clings to his excuses from months ago. You know what? He does NOT get an excuse. There is absolutely no excuse for what he has done. If the things that he said were true, he could justify many things, but jumping into the waiting arms of a OW is not one of them.

Hes searching for excuses, and I think that the one that got the best response is the mental abuse...suicide line that hes been spraying out to anyone who will listen has probably gotten people to tell him what he wants to hear. So hes going to keep using it. Dont take it personally. This is not about you.