SP- I think this is where the "screw the WAS, we can't live in fear forever" comes in. And obviously, I don't mean a shift in demeanor but, your email=your length of choice etc.
How about you try some "I'll think about that." Or, "you think so? Really?" Or "I'll take another look and get back to you..."
Maybe you need to disengage and not spar with her.
This seems to me the scariest and most precarious part of the D. Maybe Coach can advise on how one navigates this territory while preserving "friendiness."
