We have talked and decided that we are going to take things slow, see where we are at the end of the summer and go from there.
Hes scheduled to be in Va for 3 more years, but he also is scheduled to re-enlist in sept. If he chooses to get out he will most likely move back here and work for the ferry system... something that I cant abide by. I cant deal with him being gone for weeks at a time with female coworkers on a cramped ship. Nope, sorry buddy, not after what you have done. Ideally he would stay in the CG at a shore billet while I learned to trust him again. But if he got out he could work on the tug boats and things like that and I dont think I would feel threatened.
Its the idea of him spending weeks around other women and away from me that worries me, because thats what happened last time. The tugs are all guys and they rarely go into a port for more than a day or two. I know that he is becoming less and less fond of the military however, so Im not sure how it would go over if I asked him to stay in.
Another thing: He is scheduled to be in Va for 3 more years (if he reenlists) but he has mentioned maybe talking to the detailer to see if he can come back to Ak. It seems like the military has recently put more emphasis on M, M soldiers are healthier, happier and more likely to perform well, so I think that if he went to his detailer and said "look, I need to save my M, and I cant do it from here" they might be a little more flexible than he thinks. And I know that he can "trade" billets with people, if someone, in a similar job, wants to go to Va from Ak, they can trade. I was at a point where I was willing to go to him, but I question that now. Isnt it his turn to bend over backwards?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
