I mean, so many people say "if you're happy, the kids will be happy." It is BS, even statistics have shown it. How does it feel to have your world crumble and have everyone just gloss over it and skip off? I take a different approach, this is hard and it hurts and we'll get through it.
Yes, I absolutely concur from the core of my being. The school 'counselor' told me the kids would be fine with W sleeping in the same bed with OM amd the kids in the same hotel room as long was mom was 'happy' and it was really none of my business. What a big lie! This is sadly 'pop psychology' and 'accepted culture'.
Yep. The school counselor is most likely not f'ing qualified to make that call. I, Me, Mine should be our new national anthem. But I digress. The kids need to know at their cores that the adults are mindful of and sensitive to what they are going through. Like I said, I went through some traumas it and sometimes felt like "what the hey? My dad just died and you want to know why I'm in a crabby mood??"
You can't coddle, they've got to cope, but sheesh. If child-rearing was just about the grown ups being "happy" couldn't we all just take happy pills and let them work their cr*p out...oh, right, I guess that is what most people do these days.
