FIB, You need to have a custody and visitation plan legally ironed out and signed, sealed and delivered ASAP. And you are trying to defend yourself, reasoning and debating her? Each time you engage her in this kind of dialog you have lost as soon as you as much as open your mouth. You are getting dragged down into the muck. So do not engage her. Her attorney needs to talk to your attorney and you follow what your attorney tells you to do here.