I think you mean mid-life "transition". That's the stage that everyone goes through and most go through it okay. The "crisis" is when they trash everything they have, hurt everyone they've loved, done things they've never done before. I guess that's why they call it a crisis.
If using your term makes you feel more comfortable, continue using it. Mid life crisis/mid life transition... same thing. Calling it a "transition" doesn't mean it can't be a painful/destructive "transition".
Ultimately the idea is to recognize that this process induces alot of changes, many of which you may not understand, agree or approve of... they will still happen regardless.
Trying to steer her, move her in the direction you want her to go in is probably going to guarantee the opposite happens.
