Would it be at all possible for you to either invite your W to participate in one of your GALs or for the two of you to find an activity to share together?
I find that when my H and I work on any sort of project or activity that requires collaboration, we end up seeing the best in each other. It also helps us laugh and reconnect without pressure.
Would your W be interested in riding the Century? Do either of you like bowling or gardening or rock climbing or dancing or cooking or home improvement?
Also, do you have mutual friends that you both enjoy with whom you can share a group outing? Sometimes a group takes that one-on-one pressure off.
Based on the details of your particular situation, I think it is important to find a way to interact on a basis that doesn't involve household responsibilities, childcare, individual/separate GALs and goals.
