WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[antlers]

How many times in our lives have we said something that we didn't mean because we were hurt or angry? How many times have we done something because we were hurt or angry? A large percentage of divorces that are filed are NEVER finalized!

I think some people have the ability to justify their actions...regardless of how wrong their actions are! I'm stating my opinions here. A marriage license is just a piece of paper also...if one chooses to look at it that way! CIPA is still legally married! If he's not free to marry...then he's not free to date! Again, that's my opinion. Hard to see how violating a marriage vow might 'save' the marriage!

Yeah...a 'divorce' is a legal thing. Just because one spouse is making a mistake doesn't justify the other spouse making a mistake too! Sandi made a good analogy comparing a WAS to someone who had a disease! How would you treat your spouse if they had a disease? How valuable is this woman to you? They are not thinking right, they are confused, they are 'in the fog' right now. Someone has to be strong and thinking right...it take a strong man to hang in there and do what's honorable and noble and try his best to save his marriage.

It's not a 50-50 thing...especially under these circumstances! It's more like a 99-1 thing...with us putting forth 99% of the effort! If she's worth it to you...you'll do it. I don't feel divorced right now, even though she's done all of the things you mentioned, and CIPA probably doesn't either. I'm separated, as is CIPA. These are my opinions, and it's how I feel about it.

But, I respect your opinions on this issue, especially in regards to your own situation.