The "problem" was referring to our dynamic of me being the pragmatic one and H f'ing around. And it was indeed a problem. We needed either a) more of a balance or b) me being able to hold that position without resentment and nagging and eye-rolling and exasperation.
The dynamic is still the same on that front and frankly, the more he screws up, the more I step up. You are right though, that is just how it is. I am here for my kids first and foremost. Still, I am making the space emotionally for him to step up with them, I will not get in the way if he shifts his attention and wants to do better by them. Of course, this gets tricky if he is inconsistent which I must anticipate so I have to have some boundaries.
Anyway, how are you????????? I have to find your thread!
