what kerry said and also the book "What About the Kids?" is a good one although I only read the first half and got too freaked out and that was 2 years ago BUT it sure delineated the painful process and DETAILS we sometimes forget.
(Sigh) I would probably say, ONCE in writing or texts, a "revision" of her memory. Deny that you witheld (She may see your "silence as consent" and give her UP TO 3 examples (no more than 3 or she'll tune out, and I say this from jury experience and audiences...etc) of when SHE withheld. You can start/or follow w/ "Not to be picky, but accurate, here's MY recall of....." and tell her, IN WRITING IN SOME FORM, the brief truth. You MAY want to follow with a stick of some sort like "MY L tells me "X and Y" and OR how she's violating what is in writing, etc.
Hey I still don't know the answer--do you have SOMETHING in writing or not?
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