First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks for the comments guys.

Haven't posted for a while so I thought I'd update, although there's not much to update.

For the past two weeks, things have been pretty status quo, although this week has been different than the normal weekend = good, Monday W at work = still pretty good, Tues - Fri stink then back to good on the weekend. What's different this week? EGF is off work.

W and I were talking Wed night and she told me that EGF did something to her shoulder and would be off work for a couple weeks. W said she told EGF to let her know how her Dr. appt went and EGF never did. W was kind of like "whatever" about that, but knowing W, she was hurt by EGF not calling/TM'ing about the Dr. Too bad.....

Yesterday evening I was sitting on the deck when I got home from work and W came home and was talking, talking, talking. Continued the whole night. At 9 W went upstairs to watch something on T.V. and I sat there thinking, what's different? W has been engaged with me all week. It's just so different. And then I remembered the EGF conversation and BAM! It hit me.

So what to do? I don't think EGF is actively encouraging W to NOT get closer to me, but I think there's reminders there every time they talk how wonderful EGF's life is (getting married to the 3rd love of her life in 3 weeks) and how wonderful W's life could be if we weren't together and she was FREE but then W spends a weekend or vacation with me and things are good and W is confused again because how do those two thoughts reconcile themselves?

I guess I'll find out soon enough if I'm correct in my assumptions. W moves to a new office building in a month and will be around a lot of people she likes and respects, not stuck in the basement of another building with EGF being the only one in the building she can stand. And EGF probably will quit her job once she gets married at the end of the month so we'll see if what I suspect is correct.

Besides that? W being very engaged lately. More and more open about her day, her talks with her old boss, asking me to do stuff with her, doing stuff with me when I ask her. She's not so obsessed with her weight anymore (OM made comments about his W being heavy and that's when W went on the starvation diet). She still watches her weight, but she's not so anorexic anymore. She's gained about 5 pounds (up to a whopping 113), and in my opinion looks better than before, but she still makes comments about having to lose weight. I just compliment her, tell her she looks great, etc. I even told her last weekend that it looked like her boobs were getting bigger and she just smiled.

That's about it. I've read on a few other threads where people say that it took either them or their spouse 18 - 24 months after the A to really figure it out and I'm about 13 months post A now, so I hope the progress I'm seeing is real.

Talk to ya soon.