Hey, someone told me that piecing was much harder than being apart. I believe that because there is a lot to overcome. You have some great advice here. Don't let him bait you into defending yourself. That's DB101. Validate, listen, stay calm & don't give him any reason to make this YOUR fault. I agree that a true reconcilliation can not take place until OW is gone. But, sometimes it takes a while to get the OP out of their system. Praying for you and thinking of you. And, remember...you are not at the beginning again. You have learned so much and have the tools. Now, use them.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him