Over the Shock and GALing 4

[Thinker]

OK, Thinker.

You LOVE her and you want her to be your wife. Knowing that is all you need to know how to give her support and love.

Perhaps the only way you are not going to feel resentful is to make a little headway in your intimacy. I'm not focusing on sex here, I'm talking about your connection.

At some point, you may have to push gently against her wall. And then back off if her resistance is too hard. You'll have to read when to take risks and push and back off.

Lucky

Thanks Lucky,

I agree. I have been bouncing off of that wall for so long I have started to feel like a supplicant.

For a couple of months now I have been alternating unsuccessfully between pushing against the wall (read PRESSURE) and backing off (read DETACHING).

Each time the pressure is less and the detaching is more.

Right now I am detaching. I am finally really admitting to myself that the emotional part of the R is dead. It may come back, but right now it is dead and gone. Keep my expectations low, be friends, support her, and see what happens.

Meanwhile...on with my life.

...anyone up for a bike ride? I'm scheduled to ride a century with a local bike club (approx 30 other cyclers) this Sunday...