It's not about returning to the old "nothing is ever good enough" Tim.
It's not about vindictiveness.
It is exactly this - you two had an agreement. It now appears as though she is or intends to violate that agreement. That is not acceptable to you. And as a man of integrity, you are not ok with being buddy/buddy with a woman who has chosen to invest her emotional energies with another man.
Whatever issues exist between two estranged spouses, one thing is always certain. The presence of another person for either spouse all but assures that NO POSITIVE CHANGE will come to the relationship between the husband and wife.
