There is a great website www.marriagebuilders.com that deals with reconciliation after an affair. Check it out.
I believe his attempts this time around are genuine. I'm sure in his head he is saying he is done with the OW, it was a bad decision, he is ashamed, etc... But he also needs to realize the damage he has done to the trust in your M. This is where the full discloser and transparency come into play. If you request he block her from his cell.. He should do it, simply to show he understands it is what YOU need to heal from this.
Form your post you have a ton of unanswered questions in your head and it is as normal as can be. I strongly suggest you go the site I mentioned and simply read the content, it will give you insight into the healing path you are on. Just like DB, there are highs and lows to the reconciliation process. The more you know about it, you have the ability to anticipate and understand the twists and turns of the journey. The knowledge lessens the emotional burden you carry from his affair. Take the time and learn what you can. It truely helps.
Thanks for checking back in. I keep my time on DB limited to one situation. For some reason, yours is it, can't tell you why. Regardless, it's good to hear the positive steps coming out of your efforts! Keep it up, keep posting and the DB'ers here will help where we can.
