Maybe your real mojo is just to be able to look at her (not in a creepy way) but just stillness, you're not running the show, you're just being you.
But I am very still with her. But even in stillness funny stuff comes out. Hell, half the time it comes out before I'm even aware of it. Example -- we were out one night with a bunch of friends, all roughly the same age, at a restaurant. Some cheezy, Vangelis-like elevator music comes on. You could sort of see everyone pick up on it and listen a bit. Before I knew it, the words "All Skate!" came out of my mouth -- and everyone cracked up. Except me -- I wasn't even aware I'd said it for a couple beats. Just the way my brain is wired.
WAW's "personal space" thing has always -- and from Day One back when Reagan was president -- been about her mantra: "I don't need no clinging vines." The other day she mentioned that, initially, it was really weird to sleep alone. Now she adores it. Doesn't think she'll ever sleep with anyone (i.e., in the arms of Morpheus and not the "sex" euphemism) ever again. Even in the best of M times, she hated post-coital holding, didn't like it if I slept with my arm on/around her, etc.
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don't make it easier for W or back her up in any disingenuous way
No, we discussed this. I told her she was going to do the explaining, that I would be there, that I would answer the kids' questions, that I wouldn't undermine WAW or fight with her, but that I categorically would not lie if the kids ask this or that. Which she didn't like. But which she accepted (after admittedly trying to weasel out of it a bit).
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Maybe you picked a woman who just cannot appreciate the glory of you enough.
Or maybe I just wasn't glorious enough? Or not living up to my glory?
At no point in any of my threads have I said or even intimated that this isn't my fault.
