Over the Shock and GALing 4

[Coach]

Thinker, Another of the great lessons I learned here.
- The person in distress needs to bring up the issues to the other.

You need to bring up your issues and how they make you feel.
Don't tell her you don't think she isn't committed, what you think she expects, and that you think she is using this book to prep for her next bomb. (I stepped all in this mine field once.)
To do this effectively you need to be detached (remember you are already dead) and have no expectations. It will be healthy for you to get this in the open. You have valid points that need to be discussed (this is really friendship). This will be you leading and not accepting the status quo (limboland).
Just calmly state how you feel and why. Don't expect her to validate or agree. Do it because it's the right thing to do for yourself. This is how you escape limboland. You can handle it.
Cheers