Listen, I was the definition of emotionallly exhausted when I had my A. Heck, I even have found out I'm bipolar years later but I don't use that as an excuse.
I could list all of my stressor for you but I won't. I was much like your H in the fact that I put everyone else in front of myself.
No matter what stressors I had- it still wasn't an excuse for having an affair.
I get that you don't really want to "go there" in your mind that he's actually been physical with someone. If it wasn't the therapist it's someone he met off Ashley Madison- didn't you say he had an ad on there??
Yes, your sex life sucked- still no excuse for what he's done.
He's getting his emotional needs filled somewhere else- because of all the red flags that both Puppy and I indicated.
I think confronting him again right now is a mute point- I don't think he's going to tell the truth anyway- just more damage control- which you really want to believe.
I'm not trying to be harsh- just trying to help. My marriage is not in trouble- I came here for the singular purpose of seeing if I could help someone else.
