Yeah...it's a tough road...isn't it? I don't think our WAS know what they want right now...they only know what they don't want. I think 'living well is the best revenge' is a good attitude to have too! Although I'm not out for 'revenge' against her. We don't have any control over their thoughts, feelings, or actions...so we shouldn't even bother trying! We do have complete control over our own thoughts, feelings, and actions though...so we should exercise the control that we do have.
And I empathize with your feelings too! I think we do have more work to do on ourselves...there's always room to get even better and stronger! I'm in better physical shape now than I've been in over the last 17 or 18 years. They do have all the control as far as the relationship goes...if we have hope to be with them in the future...that's just the way it is. We could take control and go ahead and divorce them...but I'm not interested in doing that.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
