I have to add that my xh spoke with my son, after me asking him NOT TO, and wanted to know what was going on. I asked him specifically not to tell my son I had spoke with him. I am truly dealing with 2 teenagers here. No adult male/father, in their right mind would go behind a mothers back and tell their teenager son what I was doing after telling him NOT to. Instead of being parents, and working together, he constantly is going against what I say. Done. I will just continue to pray.
Thank You IRMAC and MissH. Yes I am finally getting the picture and starting to deal with reality. It took me 6 months but I am getting there. Today is my sons 19th birthday and I had planned on spending it with him but his dad called and made plans to take him somewhere expensive to eat. I feel like it is becoming a "I can give you more" thing. I cant compete with money but I can with love and care. Oh well, I will celebrate when his dad is finsihed with him. I did not let my son see how much it hurt me. He has no idea I was planning a small party. I had to call and cancel some people. I will NOT try to compete with his dad!
I love you all and I will check back in to read any last comments before I go.
