I thinking about sending her something like the following:

Dear W,

This is probably the hardest thing I've ever written you. Though you D is not what I want I know you feel it's your only option at this point. Baring going to http://www.retrouvaille.org/ or some other MC I think we should get this D done as soon as possible.

Whether you realize it or not the last few weeks you've been very different to me starting with you inviting me to dinner, I'm still confused about that since you've only done that once in the last two years. I guess I was thinking that working on a finality of D gave you second thoughts. While I loved the invite and dinner I was giving myself false hope and I can't live like that anymore. So the sooner we can work this out the better I think.

What are you plans on telling the kids?

Love always
x

Me:40
W: 39
T: 17 years
M: 15 years
S-9
D-6
D final 11/10/2009

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."