She is evaluating her life, you have the chance to do the same thing right now.
Are you saying that a MLC is a person taking an "evaluation" of their life??? Are you saying that Stuck should have a MLC and evaluate his life like his wife did? And it is a good thing???
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All of the things she has accomplished in her life are important to her, she is however at a point in her life where she has accomplished what she first set out as goals in her life and now what's left?
She has done what she thought would take a life time to accomplish and thinks that she has nothing left to accomplish: is this all there is to life? Just because you are satisfied with the status quo doesn't mean she is or ever would be? Maybe she thinks that you require that from her and it's a very unfulfilling life she has to look forward to.
What are you talking about? What are you basing this on? Most people have set goals in life, but when we reach them, we don't decide to freak out, have an A and ruin a M and fmaily.
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MLC or not, it's hard to look at life that way.
Yes, well, some folks have to go on with life, right? Depends on where your standards and values lie. Each person has the choice to make the most of their life and to be happy or miserable. They can lose themselves in a MLC and destroy an entire family, but IT IS NOT A GOOD THING AND NEVER WILL BE! How can you say that?
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The OM represented a new life, a new adventure, new challenges, new everything and she wants some excitement in her life and unfortunately with the way you act, you don't offer her that much excitement: use the night of going out to dinner and watching that show as an example: you said it yourself, nothing to talk about, she never laughed, very quiet, etc. Sounds like someone who is so bored with their current life that they are slowly dying inside because of it.
So now you are blaming Stuck for his W having a MLC?? Well, then I suppose I had a right to have my EA and "crises" as well b/c you would certainly consider my H as being "boring" if you thought Stuck's night out with his W was that way. Thank you for setting me free of that guilt and putting the blame on my H. All this time I have taken responsibility for my own actions when it was his fault. I knew it was all along! I had blamed him for years for my unhappiness in our M and thought I could have done better. I especially resented him and allowed that to build into an unhealty state of mind and made me ripe for an EA when other circumstances entered our lives to add to my lonliness (which, of course, was my H's fault, too) and I found excitement with OM over the Internet and thank God b/c man was my old H one boring sucker. I felt like a million dollar baby when I was on cam with my OM and we were getting it on. Too bad my H caugt me in the act and nearly had a heart attack that night. Oh well, his bad..........as long as I know that it was okay for me to find something more satisfying and exciting in my life, then I'm good to go! Thanks to you Robx, men and women everywhere will feel free to abandon the M and go have an A and know that it doesn't hurt to throw in a MLC while they are at it. After all, you said a MLC is a good thing, right? Hey, let's all go promote having a MLC party and see how many we can get to partake. Who cares if those old boring LBS get hurt......they deserve it for not being more and showing us a great time in life!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
What are you talking about? What are you basing this on? Most people have set goals in life, but when we reach them, we don't decide to freak out, have an A and ruin a M and fmaily. 
and showing us a great time in life!
