There once was a porcupine who lived in a village full of pigs. He fell in love with one of the pigs (S laughed) and they decided to live together and make babies (porcupigs). But, the problem was that the porcupine kept poking the pig with his quills and the pig was sad and kept getting angry at the porcupine. So, even though the porcupine loved the pig and the pig loved the porcupine and they both loved their little porcupigs, the porcupine decided it would be best for him to leave and he went to a village full of porcupines. And he would come and visit the porcupigs and sometimes he would bring them with him to the porcupine village (and they fit in fine because they were half porcupine). I asked S what he thinks should happen next, should the porcupine stay away or come back? He thought about it and answered, "he should stay away so he doesn't keep hurting the pig" and then he said "or, he could find a person to cut down his quills so that they don't hurt anymore" and I asked "so he would have to change?" and he said "yes" and I said "and the pig would need to change too, wouldn't she? She would have to be a little stronger and not get upset so easily, right?" Well, he's not an idiot so when I said good night, he asked, "so that story was about us?" And I said "well, it was the closest I could get on the spot." And he seemed comforted and honestly it made sense to me and I think it made sense to him too. _________________________
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This brought a tear to my eye...not because of the sad story...but because of the strength and sheer determination of a strong, wise mother facing one of the hardest times in her life. You are a GREAT mom....and you should not tell H about this...it is a moment that your son will never forget and it is between the two of you. Your H does not need to know, nor does he DESERVE to know...and part of me thinks that he already knows how much stronger you are than he...or he would not trust you to take care of your boys. You should be proud of yourself...and think of this as your new challenge...KNOW that you are the one who can comfort your kids now, and you are doing an AMAZING job. ((HUGS)) You rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
