I sometimes wonder how long living like this is gonna last. We've basically been separated since early December, although we continued to live in the same house. She moved out on Feb. 22nd, and she's been gone for over 3 months now. We've had the kids 50-50. I know she's had a bunch of emotions to work through, and still does, I suppose. We're still married. It just feels like nothing is happening because there is no communication between us. Only communication is regarding the kids, and then it's short and to the point. I'm detatching...I'm dropping the rope. It may be because of my perspective, but I feel pretty powerless regarding our relationship. If we ever get back together, it's gonna be her decision. If we get divorced, it's gonna be her decision. I'm doing all I can right now, under the circumstances. It's a hard way to live...not knowing. I get pretty lonesome sometimes. I guess you just wait...and continue to live and do the best you can, and get stronger and better in the meantime. It's easy to get discouraged sometimes.
Wow - just how I've been feeling this week... very little communication and no idea what's going on in H's mind. They seem to have all the control, but as it was pointed out by SM on the forgiveness/friendship thread living well is the best revenge and takes back some control and power in the R.
I definitely empathize with your feelings. Feels like nothing is happening, but maybe we still have more work to do on ourselves before we can really be ready for any movement..?
