If you've been a member of this site for any appreciable amount of time you know that you should believe half or less of what any WAS says.
Yes she said she hoped he would find someone else, it's an easy thought to get in her head. If he found someone I wouldn't feel as guilty for not loving him anymore, not having sex with him anymore and I wouldn't feel guilty for having an affair.
However... those feelings don't disappear because of someone else's actions. Did you stop wanting your wives when they had affairs?
All I can say is this is not true.
It would be the opposite of what they say and it still appears that you are using your same old male logic to look at & deal with this situation, hence you are still trying to find out how to get your wives attracted to you again.
Pushing the buttons that trigger attraction is the easier thing to accomplish vs. keeping your wife after you get her to come back.
