Thanks jdopp. I have read DR and DB and am re-reading DR. Have been DBing the last 4 weeks. Big changes: stopped drinking - never felt better - started exercising again (running and lifting wts), dropped 20 lbs so far, eating healthy, reconnected with God, and stopped pursuing. All my changes are for ME, not W. My goal this week is to be more upbeat with W. She is still pleasant to me, but it is clear to me right now she has no desire to reconnect with me as her husband.
Gonna have some difficukty with the friend part if she walks out. But, I will do anything to help my kids.
Still not at the stage where I think I can ask her out (movies/dinner). Think until I have more time under my belt showing her changes, this would be a bad idea. Going to take the kids for a hike this weekend (something I never did before - 180) and may, at the last minute, tell her she is welcome to join us - she probably won't.
Just trying to keep the faith that some of my changes, any of them, are getting through.
