Sue: excellent positive steps in your R. About the memory loss in MLC... in my case althugh he forgott a lot of things he said or did during crisis, my h use to be a man that doesnt have too much memory...!!... so, maybe in your case is a mix of both things... andrea
Sue - It's true that depressed people (and I think most MLCers suffer from depression) can have problems with their memory. Also, other medical conditions (like thyroid disease) can cause memory problems. I agree that it is also worrisome that his mom and grandma had Alzheimer's.
If you've noticed a lot of episodes like this, do you think you could get him into the doctor's for some medical tests and maybe some neuropsych testing as well?
do you know what, I just logged out, then thought about it all and I was thinking, I think he has a gone a little funny. He is persuing me so much. This weekend, beginning with Friday night, he text me at about 8ish I had left my phone upstairs I went up and found three texts at about nine, all within 5 minutes of each other. Fist one said... U OK ?? Seconf one said... You not there?? Third said.... Ur asleep arnt u ?? I answerd saying Yes Yes and no We then had a little text banter. Then said about 1 in the afternoon he text... Miss u I replied ... mis u 3 Then I said How much ?? he replied... Just a bit. I replied ... oh Charmin!!! He replied.... I was joking and I dont know how to put those little grin faces you do in. I replied well you cant say it without them coz it dont work like that. Then I text.. hey you should of been down the plough today because Holly Vallance was down there( I know he fancies her ) lol He replied..... Whats this drinkin in the daytime buisness?? I thought what ?? So I replied. What isn't SHE allowed to drink in daytime? He replied well you must of been down there to see her. I replied: I was.... and ? He didn't reply (strange behavouir from a mna that didn't used to give a S**t where I was before ) Then at about 6 I get another I still mis u Then at about 8 I get a text inviting me to a party of someone he works with. I thought why didn't he invite me earlier on in the day. I replied I wanted to come. He then called me and said I dont know who is gonna be there. I said and ?? what you sayin?? He said Just that I dont know who is gonna be there, is thgat alright with u ?? ( OW, I think was the person in Question) I said , not a problem with me. He said ok, Ill pick you up at 9 ( she wasn't there) lol I kinda hoped she would be. Any way Sunday, he popped round for coffee. then called me later. I think he is gone a bit funny lol
I feel soooooooooooo! happy when I read your thread. I am just trying not to be too hopeful. I was reading your thread and you recommended some books to your H about MLC. Could you give the names because I think my H is having one even though he is only 35. I just want to read some more info.
Congratulations!!! Just enjoy the present and try not to think too much.
The book I gave my H was Awakening at Midlife, this I felt didn't seem so condecending lol, Like i was saying hey mister your having a MLC I told him that I had been through a transition and this book really helped me. I must say that I only did that when I felt the time was right, a few Monthe ago H would never have accepted that book.
If you want information for yourself Books I recommened are:
Men in midlife crisis ~ Jim Conway Your Husbands Midlife crisis ~ Sally Conway ( this one is hard to get hold of, I got it from rarebooks.com ) I cant remember what the other one is called but its by Pat gautier and there is a website attached to it called Midlifewivesclub.com, that website has a forum..like this one.
Heather, if you think your H may be in MLC, go to MLC forum and read all of Hearts blessings and Snodderly's stuff, even if H isn't in MLC, its really good reading.
