OMG!!! I know who the guy is. I was in my barbershop and this guy was already there--I suspected him before but didn't know his first name. My daughter found his name on my wife's computer on one of the games she was playing. Know I know what type of vehicle he drives and I see him in the gym all the time. He's an Army Major and was my wife's workout partner at the gym and I suspect out of the gym as well. So, time to do some recon tonight to see if he is in fact "visiting" the wife. I would love to see the expression on her face when I say so, I hope I can find someone else to love like you and (insert name here) have. There was only one other guy in the barbershop too and I leered the whole time and this guy wouldn't even look my way--suspicious in my mind. Hmmmmmm.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
I agree with dburt. I think you should tell your W to back off on focusing on your Ds "faults" right now. Be there for her. In the end she'll respect you for it, if not her, then your D will. And she will see the type of man that she will want to marry one day.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Ok, I tried to set a boundry w/ the wife tonight regarding my D. She acknowledged that I should be the one handling the day to day stuff w/ my D then changed her tone and started yelling and cussing at me. I told her in the middle of it that I didn't appreciate the attitude and she kept yelling so I hung up the phone. I'm getting ready to get in the car in a bit to see if the OM's truck is over there at her apartment. Hopefully not.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
The truck was there. I took pictures. Now what? Do I confront her? She'll just deny it.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
I'd confront. Especially when she keeps acting 'holier than thou' to you and your D. Funny thing is that she'll turn it around and still lie, then later say they're just friends, then change it to how it was your fault for her having the A in the first place.
All these S's with A really get predictable.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I'm sorry you had to see that... I was tearing up reading it! But, does that make it any more real now? Are you able to function from a point of anger? I typically kick as$ if I'm pissed! Just wondering if it will help to bring some closure to your sitch.
Good Luck.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.