WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

Great night. Did your W call like she expected you to?

No my wife didn't call nor did I have the boys call her.

I had thought about having the boys call her like she asked, but she did say it didn't have to be every nite. I just wanted them to have a nite without any of the BS or dealing with any feelings of talking to her. I will probably have them call at least once during this trip home.

I'm sure it will bug her, but I'm preparing my wall as I'll just remind her that I call them if she doesn't call me and I had already told her that she is welcome to call the boys anytime.

I must admit that I struggled with having the boys call her or not. I kept going back to what Coach said - ask yourself the question will this bring me closer to my goal.

I debated that if I did it, it would show her that I was listening to what she said and had respected her enough to do it. On the other hand, I was worried that she would just see how easy it was for her to control what I did. That's why I compromised on having them call just once out of the 3 nites that I will have them. Of course if they ask to call, I will let them. Or if she calls, she can certainly call them.

Not sure if this is a pride thing that is getting in my way or not.

Any thoughts?