I was prepared to not be married to my exH anymore- I was not prepared for how I would feel once stepmom started painting my daughters fingernails and things like that. Very painful- and I had never even considered it.
I don't mean to hijack her, but thought your comment was interesting relative to what happened in my situation.
The weekend before my wife moved out, she started lamenting about how I would just forget about her and move on and find someone else after she moved out. She said it repeatedly. Up til that point, she never said anything like that. I got tired of it by the third day so I confronted her and asked her - is that what she wants me to do or is that what's she's planning on doing or is that what's she is afraid will happen. She just broke down and cried saying she didn't know what she wanted.
I was hurt when it happened, to see the woman I love so lost and beaten down like that.
Now I look back at it with some disbelief. How can someone make a decision like filing for a divorce and moving out when they don't even know what they wanted.
Just crazy.......
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
