WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

It is and it's like what Wifey said about being nuance. It's a shift in the dynamic of your thinking.

I've been re-reading Wifey's posts numerous time on nuance. I'm still stuck (no pun intended)

The whole point of GAL and PMA is to make the WA blink. Wow, LBS is so upbeat and positive, hmmm am I doing the right thing here. I was so sure, now I am questioning it just a little. Am I so easy to get over?

LBS is so happy apparently, and I still don't feel all that great. WTF?!

She assumes you've given up by watching you. And you are doing really great at it. But then your actions are going to create cognitive dissonance. (Do a google search or use the search function on this site.)

And, you let her know your committment WITHOUT any words. With actions.

And, to add to that, when the GAL and PMA are really and truly for you and not just for the reaction of your spouse - they are really unsure of themselves.

Combined with your positive changes they look at you with new respect. You become interesting, different.

With a heaping helping of friendship - things can happen.

The part that is really hanging me up is the part about "committment WITHOUT any words. With actions. "

Some help please....