"Re-writing of marital history" refers to a cheating spouse telling their betrayed spouse that "I've never been happy in the marriage," even though all earlier indications are that they WERE. They actually go back in their minds and RE-WRITE the history of their marriage, making it out to be much worse than it was, EARLIER than it was, to justify the decision to have an affair.
I'd estimate that it happens is over 80% of all affairs.
As for the rest of it, I'm hearing you, but I remain unconvinced. Just please be careful.
