Yes, I know that they baby is an innocent party -- that is why I am trying so hard to figure out a way to reconcile H's involvement in its life in the future with our M having a future. I was hoping to get some feedback from any posters here who have been in the position where OW has H's baby but they are still trying to work things out with their H. Just want to know how they are trying to handle the situation.
I have asked him not to have any contact with OW other than relating to the child, and to go to Retrouvaille with me, and then said I'd see where we were after that. He agreed to those points and has stuck to them so far (3 weeks). I am struggling with what he would need to do so that I could believe that he is truly committed to our marriage and won't just change his mind again 6 months from now. I just don't know. Meanwhile, I am tryng to act normal in front of our children when in fact I feel like my life has been yanked out from under me. I would like to talk to someone IRL, but I guess I need to figure out who I'd be comfortable with.
