Divorce looming #14

[25yearsmlc]

I just wanted to clarify what I was trying to say (RE: meds). I realize this is my opinion and perhaps I should have not jumped on my soapbox but its something I feel is worth mentioning based on personal experience.

No matter who you are, the medical choices you make are up to you and your medical team. There isnt a right or wrong medical choice. I realize we all have different needs, medical histories, medical conditions and access to all different kinds of healthcare and nobody can advise anybody based simply on message board postings.

I myself have a chronic and incurable disease called Systemic Lupus. L

I am a small woman - I am five foot 3 and I weigh just 100 pounds so even in small doses Xanax was a killer for me. I was taking the very lowest dose they make (.5).

(FYI no biggie, but they do make .25 now and you can break those in half too)

IMO if you are only taking pills and doing nothing else (counseling) you are really making a very bad choice. Because you will feel better in a physical sense but that is it - your emotional health will not improve. Sure, you might not feel as "nuts" but overall, you wont be improving yourself as an individual.

[b]THIS IS THE MAIN POINT OF WHAT WE ARE ALL SAYING KEV -AND WHY WE KEEP HARPING ON THE THINKING PROCESS (THE COGNITIVE PART) AND WHY I KEEP ASKING ABOUT THE COUNSELLING AND WHEN IT WILL START.... WELL???
Otherwise you may as well say, "Oh I decided pills were better than alcohol... and i don't want to grow up". YOU yourself said you think maybe b/c of the drinking you are not as mature as you should be, (no experience in "manning up" b/c you "never had to before now" and you are 34 years old...and that is typical of drinkers who start drinking at an early age. They numb their feelings and stunt their development. Want to stunt your growth some more? I can promise you that while you'll never have a good woman in your life, and your d's won't respect you, it MIGHT make tonight easier... [/b]

I dont want to make anybody mad or come across as I am disrespecting any medical choices one might make. I am just sharing my opinion and experience.
I GET THAT. SAME HERE.

Thanks for the forum to do so.

So kev no one is telling you what to do or not to do about the meds except get c and see what they say. And be careful. But we are ALL saying you need some professional help ON TOP OF OR INSTEAD OF THE PILLS... and there is NO reason for you not to have gotten SOME c or therapy by now. Who are you talking with? Come on, throw us a bone so we know you are listening AND following through...

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